10 month old: Want to move to Raleigh N.C. so I don't have to work anymore and be a full time Mommy instead?
I need outside opinions. About three and half years ago we moved to Raleigh from the DC area. We moved away from all family and friends. 6 months later we moved back to the DC area cuz "I missed my family, and wanted any future children to be close to the family." After the decision was made I regretted it, but the move back was already set in motion. After moving back we bought a house, and I got a great paying job with alot of benefits. I have no degree. 10 months ago we had a baby. Now I want to be a stay at home mommy. The only way it would be possible is to move back to Raliegh where my husband can make a good income, and the cost of living is half. The question is should we move back? I wonder if I will miss working. I worry that I will miss out on her, and she is growing up so fast. Thanks for listening to me.
Newborn & Baby - 6 Answers
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1 :
Well that's a tuff one. You can always get a part time job if you miss working but will you end up missing your family again??
2 :
I'm a SAHM, and I can't imagine anything being more important or making me feel as happy as I do now. If this is important to you, I say go for it. We're actually at Camp Lejeune, NC so I know how it is to be away from family...for me though, it's still worth it to be able to be a SAHM.
3 :
I think it's more important to stay where you are and be near your family. They want a relationship with your daughter I'm sure. It's not going to kill you to work, a lot of moms do. It's a lot to ask your husband to just up and move his job too. I think you need to consider other people in this decision.
4 :
You and your husband are going to have to consider this carefully. There is nothing inherently wrong with either decision but you need to really consider what's more important to you. Can you not live without your family nearby? Do you want to be a SAHM because of work pressures, or because you have really considered it. I have lived near and very far from my family and have both worked full time and stayed home with my little one, neither situation is perfect. Before you make another big move make sure you fully understand what you are getting into and how you will deal with any difficulties you find. It's not good to always be looking at the other side.
5 :
That is a tough one only because you love your families so much. I would choose to move back though. I love being a SAHM. I couldn't imagine going back to work and miss seeing those 9-10 hours of his day. I didn't have a degree and wasn't at a job that I planned on staying at forever. I wanted to go back to school and watch my son (hopefully more in the future) grow up. I wasn't comfortable with daycare and I didn't have any family or close reliable non-working friends that could watch him. I missed worked at first but seeing my son grow up is so much more rewarding. How far is DC from Raleigh. I'm not familiar with that part so much. Just remember that you have your computer (if your family has one to) that you can communicate daily and send pictures of your little one. As long as your husband and little one are up for the move I would say it would be worth it. I know your other family will know you are doing what is best for your family and yourself. Hope everything works out and Good Luck!!!
6 :
I would do whatever it took to be a SAHM. They are only little once and you could miss out on so many of their milestones. Plus, you forge a bond when they are small that stays with them. You could always work after she goes to school if you still need the money and want something to do while she is in school. DC is only a 5 hour drive, so you should be able to make regular trips to see family and they can possibly come here. As you know, Raleigh is a great place, who knows....maybe your family will decide to move here.
I need outside opinions. About three and half years ago we moved to Raleigh from the DC area. We moved away from all family and friends. 6 months later we moved back to the DC area cuz "I missed my family, and wanted any future children to be close to the family." After the decision was made I regretted it, but the move back was already set in motion. After moving back we bought a house, and I got a great paying job with alot of benefits. I have no degree. 10 months ago we had a baby. Now I want to be a stay at home mommy. The only way it would be possible is to move back to Raliegh where my husband can make a good income, and the cost of living is half. The question is should we move back? I wonder if I will miss working. I worry that I will miss out on her, and she is growing up so fast. Thanks for listening to me.
Newborn & Baby - 6 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
Well that's a tuff one. You can always get a part time job if you miss working but will you end up missing your family again??
2 :
I'm a SAHM, and I can't imagine anything being more important or making me feel as happy as I do now. If this is important to you, I say go for it. We're actually at Camp Lejeune, NC so I know how it is to be away from family...for me though, it's still worth it to be able to be a SAHM.
3 :
I think it's more important to stay where you are and be near your family. They want a relationship with your daughter I'm sure. It's not going to kill you to work, a lot of moms do. It's a lot to ask your husband to just up and move his job too. I think you need to consider other people in this decision.
4 :
You and your husband are going to have to consider this carefully. There is nothing inherently wrong with either decision but you need to really consider what's more important to you. Can you not live without your family nearby? Do you want to be a SAHM because of work pressures, or because you have really considered it. I have lived near and very far from my family and have both worked full time and stayed home with my little one, neither situation is perfect. Before you make another big move make sure you fully understand what you are getting into and how you will deal with any difficulties you find. It's not good to always be looking at the other side.
5 :
That is a tough one only because you love your families so much. I would choose to move back though. I love being a SAHM. I couldn't imagine going back to work and miss seeing those 9-10 hours of his day. I didn't have a degree and wasn't at a job that I planned on staying at forever. I wanted to go back to school and watch my son (hopefully more in the future) grow up. I wasn't comfortable with daycare and I didn't have any family or close reliable non-working friends that could watch him. I missed worked at first but seeing my son grow up is so much more rewarding. How far is DC from Raleigh. I'm not familiar with that part so much. Just remember that you have your computer (if your family has one to) that you can communicate daily and send pictures of your little one. As long as your husband and little one are up for the move I would say it would be worth it. I know your other family will know you are doing what is best for your family and yourself. Hope everything works out and Good Luck!!!
6 :
I would do whatever it took to be a SAHM. They are only little once and you could miss out on so many of their milestones. Plus, you forge a bond when they are small that stays with them. You could always work after she goes to school if you still need the money and want something to do while she is in school. DC is only a 5 hour drive, so you should be able to make regular trips to see family and they can possibly come here. As you know, Raleigh is a great place, who knows....maybe your family will decide to move here.
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